I was about to go to my office when I happened to catch online my very close friend. We chatted and for a moment came to some question and answer postions. There, I was told that she’s thankful that I’m showing a lot of concern and care for her but asked me to stop. There and then, I was feeling like being stabbed. Who would not be? When you care for the person so much, you’re not thinking of anything. You are not asking for anything but a simple thank you. Yes, I admit that sometimes and even most of the times, I felt being left by her because she wouldn’t share anymore her problems and secrets to me. That was the reason why I asked her and needless to say, got the exact answers from her. It hurts to care too much for a person after you are told such can make her or him breathe little (nasasakal in tagalog). Now it’s a learning process for me to cope-up with. Now I don’t know what I’ll be doing. I can always see her and it hurts that I can’t do the same things I wanna do to her before. But as human as I am, I know my letting her go is the only way to save our precious friendship. Only God knows what’s in store for me. Maybe I have to control my feelings in caring too much for a person the next time. Suppressing this feeling may take time but I know I can. God will help me and to you readers, always remember to leave something for you first when you care or even share love to your partners and friends. Take it from me, I’ve been into this situation. To her whom I considered my special sister and friend, always rememeber that no matter what happens, you will still be loved and cared by your KUYA. Thanks for giving me light on this. Afterall, I thought loving and caring unconditionally can help and make our loved ones happy. It’s a big NO NO pala. Thanks and God bless!!
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I miss the talks we used to have, I miss the voice I used to hear… I miss hearing your crazy but cool stories, and above all these… I just miss you!
I ofter catch myself constantly wondering how you are, sitting alone with my mind set so far, reminiscing about your smile, voice and touch, damn this life… I’m missing you too much!..
Those were some lines/quotes I happened to browse on the net…But frankly speaking, I just miss her….These were the pictures I got when she visited me for 30 minutes in the place I am having my field immersion…Dumaguete City is very near Santander, Cebu yet soooo far because I happened to have not applied for my passes by the time she decided to come by and go back again….Poor me…Need to follow the rules of my training. After all, this is for our future…I just miss her so much…..very much…….Luv u LYF……
I came to realize that It’s been quite a while since my last post here in my site. Nothing much to write that’s why. But now, though I’m not in the best of moods to do so, I can’t help but let these metacarpal tips of mine do the pounding.
This coming February 14, 2009, I’ll be celebrating my four years of existence here in my work. Not really the work I was looking for but this is where I excelled. I just can recall those days wherein I have to fight back sleepiness during graveyard shifts just to finish a file of which was due on the same day. The day I became a team leader and now a supervisor. The day wherein I freaked out in production upon scolding an operator.. Whew!!!very unprofessional of mine huh. But wait, ..pressure can always change your mood no matter how much you control it. And I’m just human being trapped by such notion. But memories always linger. …I know I’ll be leaving this company I’m beginning to love for better future… I’ll always be thankful for what it has done to me…. I gained a lot of friends, got respected and was challenged to be the best that I can be… All I can say is thank you for molding me as me today. .I’ll surely be missing my batchmates and as a tribute, I’m posting here our latest tarpauline. These are the might 13 who are still working here. Friends!!I’ll surely be missing you…….Thank you for the friendhip and love!!
What’s the best way to break up? There is probably no best way. But there are a number of tactics that can help make it easier for both parties (even though both parties may not recognize it at the time). Here are some good tactics to use for a “clean” break:
1. Make It Fast
The longer you take to get to the point (whether it’s hours or days), the less they will take you seriously. And if you make it look like you’re having a hard time going through with the breakup, they will think they can change your feelings or stick around in your life.
2. Be Honest
Don’t sugarcoat the situation. If you’re seeing someone else, tell them you’re seeing someone else. My little sister broke up with a live-in boyfriend because she kissed another guy during a business trip. She told her boyfriend the deal — it made it more concrete. Avoid cliche’s like “I love you, I’m just not in love with you.” Guys don’t understand this stuff. If you’ve lost feelings for them, just say it. They can’t argue with that. And avoid covering up — “I just can’t be in a relationship right now.” Sure you can — if you were still really into him, you’d be in a relationship with him.
Honesty will protect you in the long run, because the truth comes out eventually.
Honesty will protect you in the long run, because the truth comes out eventually.
3. Don’t Feel Sorry for Anyone
People will beg, cry, get angry, or shower you with guilt. Just keep going, try to ward off your guilt. It’s just going to slow you down and prevent you from getting to your objective. And never take someone back, or cancel breaking up because you feel sorry for them. Do you really want to stay with someone you feel sorry for?
4. Set Post-Breakup Rules
Let them know the deal: you won’t be answering their calls or emails. You won’t be accommodating them if they show up at your apartment. Eventually, if they have any personality and independence, they will stop bothering you — but only if you stick to these rules. If you lay these rules out at the time of breakup, then they can’t say: “why are you ignoring my calls?” Don’t tell them what they are allowed to do — they can call you all they want, but if you have stated you won’t be answering their calls then you are well within your rights when you don’t pick up.
5. Stick With It
The more you take them back, the less seriously they’ll take your breakup attempts.
6. Neutral Site
Never do it at your place. You want to be able to leave on your own time. Neutral places are the easiest locations to make a quick getaway. The longer you’ve been together, the more likely it is that you’ll be required to do it in person.
Breaking up takes strength. I have found that people who can’t break up with someone they are no longer into are somewhat weak. Do what you want to do, and don’t get swayed by the situation or the other person.
I just wanna write what my normal working day is all about being one of the production supervisors In a worldwide known BPO company catering Journals Publishing here in Dumaguete City, Philippines. The day would start by seeing myself indulge in a very cold water shower 1 hour before login time. Ofcourse I can have those time because my place is in a suburban area eventhough it is a city, it’s traffic-free. I just can ride my own motortcycle and go straight to my work. Like other BPO companies here in the Philippines, we work in 3 shifting schedules. Meaning, for 24 hours, our office is open to cater our clients. It may sound weird but I myself can’t imagine I’ll be working in this company for almost 4 years now. I’m a Physical Therapy graduate and the nature of work I am into now really is outside my forte. But I’m very much thankful because it is only in this office that I learned things I didn’t know in my college days. Computers, sofwares, pre-editing, monitoring of files and more. I admit it was a very tough work for me but with perseverance and eagerness to learn, I became a team leader in a year and then now a supervisor. It was a big challenge for me working with so many energetic people. Most are even fresh graduates and very active. My position also brought the best of me in terms of monitoring my people, counselling, handling pressures and achieving the deliveries asked by our clients. There are even times I have to work despite being sick just to ensure our articles beat the deadline. How tough life can be. We are being measured not on what we achieve but on what we can handle. Life is a mystery. Sometime you’re happy sometimes you’re down. But one thing I can say, God gave us the knowlegde to think what is wrong and right. But rememeber, sometimes it takes courage and risk to fulfill one goal to the point that this might hurt the ones we loved. I love my work and I know I will still be here in the years to come. The friends, the relationships built while being here are very precious that it’s very hard to leave them. Learn to love your job and the next thing you’ll realize, you’re loving it’s pay…hehehe