The best way of breaking-up

What’s the best way to break up? There is probably no best way. But there are a number of tactics that can help make it easier for both parties (even though both parties may not recognize it at the time). Here are some good tactics to use for a “clean” break:
1. Make It Fast
The longer you take to get to the point (whether it’s hours or days), the less they will take you seriously. And if you make it look like you’re having a hard time going through with the breakup, they will think they can change your feelings or stick around in your life.
2. Be Honest
Don’t sugarcoat the situation. If you’re seeing someone else, tell them you’re seeing someone else. My little sister broke up with a live-in boyfriend because she kissed another guy during a business trip. She told her boyfriend the deal — it made it more concrete. Avoid cliche’s like “I love you, I’m just not in love with you.” Guys don’t understand this stuff. If you’ve lost feelings for them, just say it. They can’t argue with that. And avoid covering up — “I just can’t be in a relationship right now.” Sure you can — if you were still really into him, you’d be in a relationship with him.
Honesty will protect you in the long run, because the truth comes out eventually.
Honesty will protect you in the long run, because the truth comes out eventually.
3. Don’t Feel Sorry for Anyone
People will beg, cry, get angry, or shower you with guilt. Just keep going, try to ward off your guilt. It’s just going to slow you down and prevent you from getting to your objective. And never take someone back, or cancel breaking up because you feel sorry for them. Do you really want to stay with someone you feel sorry for?
4. Set Post-Breakup Rules
Let them know the deal: you won’t be answering their calls or emails. You won’t be accommodating them if they show up at your apartment. Eventually, if they have any personality and independence, they will stop bothering you — but only if you stick to these rules. If you lay these rules out at the time of breakup, then they can’t say: “why are you ignoring my calls?” Don’t tell them what they are allowed to do — they can call you all they want, but if you have stated you won’t be answering their calls then you are well within your rights when you don’t pick up.
5. Stick With It
The more you take them back, the less seriously they’ll take your breakup attempts.
6. Neutral Site
Never do it at your place. You want to be able to leave on your own time. Neutral places are the easiest locations to make a quick getaway. The longer you’ve been together, the more likely it is that you’ll be required to do it in person.
Breaking up takes strength. I have found that people who can’t break up with someone they are no longer into are somewhat weak. Do what you want to do, and don’t get swayed by the situation or the other person.

FOOD FOR THOUGHT

People always come into your life for a reason, a season and a lifetime. When you figure out which it is, you know exactly what to do.

When someone is in your life for a REASON, it is usually to meet a need you have expressed outwardly or inwardly. They have come to assist you through a difficulty, or to provide you with guidance and support, to aid you physically, emotionally, or even spiritually. They may seem like a godsend to you, and they are. They are there for a reason,you need them to be. Then, without any wrong doing on your part or at an inconvenient time, this person will say or do something to bring the relationship to an end. Sometimes they die, Sometimes they just walk away. Sometimes they act up or out and force you to take a stand. What we must realize is that our need has been met, our desire fulfilleed; their work is done. The prayer you sent up has been answered and it is now time to move on.

When people come into your life for a SEASON, it is because your turn has come to share, grow, or learn. They may bring you an experience of peace or make you laugh. They may teach you something you have never done. They usually give you an unbelievable amount of joy. Believe it! It is real! But, only for a season. And like Spring turns to Summer and Summer to Fall, the season eventually ends.

LIFETIME, relationships teach you a lifetime of lessons; those things you must build upon in order to have a solid emotional foundation. Your job is to accept the lesson, love the person/people (anyway);, and put what you have learned to use in all other relationships and areas in your life. It is said that love is blind but friendship is clairvoyant. Thank you for being part of my life…..

Life Still Has A Meaning

If there is a future there is time for mending-
Time to see your troubles coming to an ending.

Life is never hopeless however great your sorrow-
If you’re looking forward to a new tomorrow.

If there is time for wishing then there is time for hoping-
When through doubt and darkness you are blindly groping.

Though the heart be heavy and hurt you may be feeling-
If there is time for praying there is time for healing.

So if through your window there is a new day breaking-
Thank God for the promise, though mind and soul be aching,

If with harvest over there is grain enough for gleaning-
There is a new tomorrow and life still has meaning.

THE OBSTACLE IN OUR PATH

In ancient times, a king had a boulder placed on a roadway. Then he hid himself and watched to see if anyone would remove the huge rock. Some of the king’s wealthiest merchants and courtiers came by and simply walked around it.

Many loudly blamed the king for not keeping the roads clear, but none did anything about getting the big stone out of the way. Then a peasant came along carrying a load of vegetables. On approaching the boulder, the peasant laid down his burden and tried to move the stone to the side of the road. After much pushing and straining, he finally succeeded. As the peasant picked up his load of vegetables, he noticed a purse lying in the road where the boulder had been. The purse contained many gold coins and a note from the king indicating that the gold was for the person who removed the boulder from the roadway. The peasant learned what many others never understand.

FRIENDSHIP AND LOVE

Love starts with a smile, grows with a kiss, and ends with a tear.

Don’t cry over anyone who won’t cry over you.
Good friends are hard to find, harder to leave, and impossible to forget.
You can only go as far as you push.
Actions speak louder than words.
The hardest thing to do is watch the one you love, love somebody else.
Don’t let the past hold you back; you’re missing the good stuff.
Life’s short. If you don’t look around once in a while, you might miss it.
A best friend is like a four leaf clover: hard to find and lucky to have.
If you think that the world means nothing, think again. You might mean the world to someone else.
When it hurts to look back, and you’re scared to look ahead, you can look beside you and your best friend will be there
True friendship never ends.
Friends are forever.
Good friends are like stars….You don’t always see them, but you know they are always there.
Don’t frown. You never know who is falling in love with your smile.
What do you do when the only person who can make you stop crying is the person who made you cry?
NOBODY IS PERFECT UNTIL YOU FALL IN LOVE WITH THEM. (Isn’t that the truth?)
Everything is okay in the end. If it’s not okay, then it’s not the end.
Most people walk in and out of you life. But only True friends leave footprints in your heart.

Unconditional Love – motivating story

A story is told about a soldier who was finally coming home after having fought in Vietnam. He called his parents from San Francisco.
“Mom and Dad, I’m coming home, but I’ve a favor to ask. I have a friend I’d like to bring home with me.”

“Sure,” they replied, “we’d love to meet him.”

“There’s something you should know the son continued, “he was hurt pretty badly in the fighting. He stepped on a land mind and lost an arm and a leg. He has nowhere else to go, and I want him to come live with us.”

Friends are a very rare jewel, indeed. They make you smile and encourage you to succeed They lend an ear, they share a word of praise, and they always want to open their hearts to us.

Life’s choice

Good day.

I came to think of one item in my life of which I could say made me a better person…What’s that? Faith..Yes faith. This may pertain basically on believing in something you might not see. In biblical scenario, belief in the Almighty God as our provider and redeemer. Nowadays, it’s pretty normal that we can’t trust what’s happening in our world if we don’t see them in our naked eyes right? But how can you answer if I ask you, why do you believe in GOD? This is because of faith. Pretty funny yet true. When we have faith, this would bring-forth miracles in which we ourselves can’t believe would happen. So, are there miracles happening? Are these not all science related happenings? I guess in the point of view of Christians, all things have miracles as to how these have been happening. For those not so inclined with Christianity, these are just normal events the mother Earth encounter. It’s our choice which to believe. After all, it is US who know what we wanna believe. See yah

Year 2008

Hello Guys,

Good day!

Another has ended and I realized I’m a year older now. Of course a year more knowledgeable in many things and ways. A year more stronger in terms of handling problems and a year more immuned to all sorts of feelings. 2008 has brought a little spice in my life. Again I managed to be listed as one of our company’s elite list of employees with perfect attendance meaning, no lates and absences. Of course I would say that’s an achievement I can be proud of for the reason that we work 6 days a week. We only have Sundays as our rest day.

What did 2008 bring in my life? Good question. First, money crisis..hehehe..Duh!! that’s a normal thing to say but I have came to realize that not all things can be bought by money. Gaining friends, care, love and family are just some which monetary abundance can’t match. You agree right? Then sadness…I managed to face sadness may it be brought about by failed relationships and friendships or just a simple failure from the expectations of others. I was about to resign from work when being faced by these failures (work related ones) but I thank my GOD for giving me time to ponder upon them and came to a realization I should face these problems. This was also the year wherein I was awarded the Sportsmanship award during our annual Sportsfest for the achievements I had in the field of sports and the things I made to make our annual fest a success. To my SPI family, it was a shocking yet grateful award for me. Also to my family for being there always whenever I face trails of many kinds. Lastly, to my God, who is so understanding if I can’t go to church every Sundays due to an overtime at work– still HE always guides me.. To my friends, thank you for making 2008 a great year for me!! love yah!!

Temper

There once was a little girl who had a bad temper. Her mother gave her a bag of nails and told her that every time she lost her temper, she must hammer a nail into the back of the fence.

The first day the girl had driven 37 nails into the fence. Over the next few weeks, as she learned to control her anger, the number of nails hammered daily gradually dwindled down. She discovered it was easier to hold her temper than to drive those nails into the fence.

Finally the day came when the girl didn’t lose her temper at all. She told her mother about it and the mother suggested that the girl now pull out one nail for each day that she was able to hold her temper.

The days passed and the young girl was finally able to tell her mother that all the nails were gone. The mother took her daughter by the hand and led her to the fence. She said, “You have done well, my daughter, but look at the holes in the fence. The fence will never be the same. When you say things in anger, they leave a scar just like this one.” You can put a knife in a person and draw it out.

It won’t matter how many times you say I’m sorry, the wound is still there. A verbal wound is as bad as a physical one.

Friends are very rare jewels, indeed. They make you smile and encourage you to succeed. They lend an ear, they share words of praise and they always want to open their hearts to us. Hence, treasure all your friends and family around you from today!

Till death do us part

(A girl and guy were speeding over 100 mph on a motorcycle)

Girl: Slow down. Im scared.

Guy: No this is fun.

Girl: No its not. Please, its to scary!

Guy: Then tell me you love me.

Girl: Fine, I love you. Slow down!

Guy: Now give me a BIG hug. (Girl hugs him)

Guy: Can u take my helmet off and put it on? Its bugging me.

In the paper the next day: A motorcycle had crashed into a building because of brake failure. Two people were on the motorcycle, but only one survived.

The truth was that halfway down the road, the guy realized that his brakes broke, but he didn’t want to let the girl know. Instead, he had her say she loved him, felt her hug one last time, then had her wear his helmet so she would live even though it meant he would die